- The Giver
- The Taker
- The Truth
If you are secure and do not have trust issues, you need to be careful. Even people with firm boundaries can be taken advantage of. If you have the ability to do this, you must remember that you are a rare commodity. You should be cherished. You should give to those people who deserve you.
If you are a giver and the receiver of your love does not respect you in kind, that person may be unable to attach. Perhaps, that person is in forever pain.
Givers may be unaware that the person who they care about wooed them under false pretenses. If the “wooer” happens to suffer from a psychological disorder and is not treating than it will be a matter of “when” and not “if” before the giver gets devalued. In such situations, unbeknownst to the giver, his or her having fallen in love exposes him or herself to potentially deep emotional pain.
The giver likely has no idea that the taker may have serious trust and intimacy issues, and as a consequence, the taker was primed to bail on the relationship from day one.
There are a million wolves in sheeps’ clothing willing to give sex for love and just as many similar wolves willing to give love for sex. Both are all about themselves and their needs.
Sex is common. Just like beauty is common. These are things that can be obtained with little to no effort. The person who freely gives sex in order to feel validated likely has patterns of short-term explosive
relationships.Takers may assert they love you; however, in actuality, your value to them may very well be that of a euphoria fix. The giver is often merely a short-term solution to a long-term deeply embedded problem
Just like beauty is common. These are things that can be obtained with little to no effort. The person who freely gives sex in order to feel validated likely has patterns of short-term explosive relationships.Takers may assert they love you; however, in actuality, your value to them may very well be that of a euphoria fix. The giver is often merely a short-term solution to a long-term deeply embedded problem
If the taker senses that he or she might be rejected or abandoned due some slight whether it be real or imagined, said taker is going to hit the road sooner rather than later.In other words, being alone and having to confront his or her own thoughts is unacceptable. Therefore, he or she will latch onto to someone to “love” for a cycle in order to anesthetize him or herself from his or her inner pain.
He or she likely may find it necessary to be in relationships without cessation because sitting in one’s feelings or self-reflecting is an anathema to them.
The subconscious sometimes fools people into thinking they are the victims but in actuality they are victimizers.
The takers are tricksters who trick themselves and others. They run long con, short con, and grift away with reckless abandon.
You can spot these euphoria addicts who frequently make poor relationship partner choices. They are attracted cool guy/gal maverick type posers whom they rationalize as “having it together” or “going somewhere.”
The taker is used to many a low level guy or gal sneaking and creeping — she won’t trust you or herself because she thinks everyone cheats.
Married people who cheat on their spouses are easy marks. If the spouse will cheat with you, the spouse has cabinet full of sirens plus his wife.
Being jerked around just so you can be held in reserve is totally wrong and speaks to the lowest form of hypocrisy.
If you are one of the people who is true and loyal, value yourself and be with someone who is worthy of you!